Saturday, 27 November 2010

How to get over a crush

  1. Maintain some type of distance.
  2. Spend time with the person.Which you will see their negative qualities, which will be beyond what you can bear if you're not meant to be.
  3. Look at them closely. Find the physical flaws. And then think... "He's not that hot! What am I thinking?!"
  4. Stop fantasizing about them! They aren't important. They don't define who you are, that's your job.
  5. Remember that this person is not the end of the world. Someone else may feel the way you do about YOU. Just remember that its a crush--no matter how strong.
  6. Focus on the trait of theirs that is your least favorite. That means, if he is so perverted and you don't like it, or if he is self-centered and you can't stand it, focus. It will allow you to see him as what he is, as well as get you over him.
  7. When you start remembering a good time you had with your crush, convince yourself it wasn't all that great by remembering a much better time you experienced with someone else.
  8. Ask yourself a reason why you want to get over it. Are you in another relationship? If so, it's easier to prioritize if you think it through.
  9. Try to minimize contact with your crush.
  10. Focus on your other interests.
  11. Go to the gym and workout. Get your mind off of it and feel better about yourself.
  12. Find comic relief. See the humorous side to things, read comic books or deep thoughts before you go to bed.
  13. Make an exciting change to make yourself feel sexy. Treat your self to a hair-cut, or a new outfit. Make yourself feel confident.
  14. Cross out or erase his/her name anywhere you might have written it (e.g your notebook, your textbook, the wall of your bedroom, etc.)
  15. Avoid all eye contact with them and try not to look longingly at his nose. You'll be more likely to get over the crush if you aren't always staring at him.
  16. Act a bit more unpleasant around them than your usual temperament. They may act unpleasant back and won't seem as attractive to you, but be warned, you may lose out on a relationship with another person if you are too mean.
  17. You know you will see this person again. They are your best friend and you don't want to lose them. Try to limit your time with them and start spending time with other people. Start dating and don't feel obligated to your best friend, they're not dating you.
  18. Learn from the experience and come out stronger.
  19. Accept! Always remember that the toughest part will be to observe your best friend be normal around you while you could struggle to do so.
  20. Try falling out of love/lust. Make lists of all the things that go against being attracted to him - love is blind, try to voluntarily open your eyes.
  21. Don't let them see how upset you are. If they know, it'll only make them feel bad and they might start avoiding you. Act like nothing happened.
  22. Consider the possibility of letting them see you with someone else. Act nicely. Sometimes people don't realize what they could have had until the opportunity is gone. If they don't start liking you back at this point, it's really time to stop crushing on them and meet new people.
  23. Remember that if they liked you but changed their minds at the last minute, you shouldn't get angry or blame things on them. Your friendship should be strong enough to not let something like that keep a good thing down.
  24. Accept it. Whether your window of opportunity came and went, or they're just not into you, acknowledge the reality of the situation. Tell yourself the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
  25. Move on. Make a promise to yourself to get over it.
  26. Reassure yourself. Look in the mirror every morning, smile, and tell yourself, "You're worth it." Really mean it. You didn't do anything wrong, and right now there's someone else out there for you.
  27. Maintain your decision. If you find yourself slipping, remember the promise you made to yourself.
  28. Associate. If and when you catch yourself thinking about your crush, pick out something about them that you dislike, and focus on it.
  29. Distract yourself. Go out with your friends and have fun. Meet new people. Keep yourself busy and happy.
  30. Take care of yourself. Keep well-groomed and put on your best clothes. It will do wonders for your self-esteem.
  31. Find someone else.
  32. Live life. You're a great person and he was a fool not to see that.
  33. Get it out. A good cry always helps. just let your feelings pour out and before you know it. He will be just a thing of the past.
"Let go, set him free, set your self free, and move on. If he is really meant for you, time will tell and your paths will meet again."

thanks to wikihow for the tips!

2 comments:

dieya said...

great tips! there are tips for all sorts of things nowadays eh? :-)
thanks for sharing!

AYApunyaCINTA said...

haha since it's related to me, to motivate myself and all of us, so why not aite ;)

ur welcome, dear!